Tag Archives: Shame

My Abortion: A Story of Privilege and Un-Shame

When I was 20 years old I was a total mess of a human being. The snowballing of bad choices began in my 18th year at around graduation. The end of high school coincided with the end of my first … Continue reading

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We Are All Octopuses

I read a book a few months ago entitled The Soul of an Octopus: A Surprising Exploration into the Wonder of Consciousness. I had never given much thought to octopuses before, but it turns out they are remarkable, completely alien … Continue reading

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A Hellish Year, Part 4: On Unsustainable Patterns

For many years I had a post-it note above my desk with the words TRY HARDER on it. The letters were in all caps, scratched angrily into its small yellow square. TRY HARDER. TRY HARDER. TRY HARDER. If I didn’t find the time … Continue reading

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A Hellish Year, Part 1: Shame

This year has been the year of the violent metaphor. When J first announced to me that he “wasn’t sure he wanted to be married anymore” (yes, that is the way he put it), it was a bomb exploding on … Continue reading

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